Friends, family, and followers…
It has come to my attention that you do not all believe the same as I do on issues like doctrine, politics, worldview, and even faith in God at all.
This is not striking or alarming to me. For those who could not or would not seek an understanding of our differences, or simply don’t want to be friends with people with whom they disagree, they chose to unfriend or just hide me. I’ve done the same with a few. But I’m not scared away from people with whom I disagree, when we can disagree with a politeness that is quite rare today.
I find that every once in a while I feel compelled to remind y’all that I mean no harm.
On issues like politics, which really is just applied worldview, I’ve always been very clear. I am a single-issue voter. I sum my political philosophy as a supporter of individual liberty. The gist is this, as an individual each American has the right to live, the right to have their life defended and protected, and the right to defend and protect themselves, when they are old enough. Applied, this means I am staunch supporter of life, from conception. And this means that the 2nd Amendment IS the foremost of our civil rights. None of our other civil rights can be protected, defended, or enforced, without the power to actually use the tools necessary to defend them. And that means the 2nd Amendment. I do not believe the government has the right to know what I have, nor should they inhibit my ability to freely purchase, own and possess all forms of modern personal firearms. I can go farther down that road, but I won’t this time. Feel free to ask me in the comments for specifics, if you feel so compelled. I will answer all polite questions.
On issues of faith, I’ve found a pretty decent balance, I believe, with the bulk of my friends on FB. I have other Christian friends from denominations and doctrinal backgrounds with whom we disagree…strongly. But under the umbrella of Christianity, we don’t treat each other like Shiite’s and Sunnies. More often than not, we agree to disagree. But also, a large portion of us simply agree on the most core of issues, but disagree on other interpretation.
I also am friends with Mormons, Jehovah’s Witnesses, claimed atheists, agnostics, Catholics, and Jews. And I’m sure I have at least one Muslim friend.
What’s the point of all this? Well, it’s my blog and I like to write about stuff that interests me. But I think I provide a point of view that challenges some and unfortunately upsets others.
But the big deal isn’t that my pro-gun meme share, or a pro Ben Carson share is going up because I’m trying to change your mind. I’m posting that stuff to remind those who ARE on my team, if you will, that they are not alone. I’m reminding them that they have political, social, philosophical, and doctrinal allies.
I’m what other Christian’s might call Reformed, or a Calvinist. I post serious doctrinal memes and not so serious pro-Calvinist memes, or quotes, etc. That is so that my Calvinist friends can be reminded, we are not alone.
Yesterday, I shared a meme-like text picture. A sister in Christ had had her limit of my war-mongering (my word choice), and posted a lengthy rebuke in the comments. I actually have very little problem with what she was trying to highlight. My only issue was that since we have shared life, I feel she’s obligated to confront me in a more personal way. I ended up responding poorly, and there were no more comments from anyone. I’m pretty sure I slammed the gavel.
After some thought, and an appropriate rebuke from my mom, I removed both comments. Then I sent a more private and direct communique with her. In person or on the phone it’ll be so much easier for her to express herself, and for me to hear her out, and possibly explain.
A little more background…
My “rules” are, if I post it on my wall, I control the flow of the debate, etc. And I don’t debate much at all on FB anymore. Why? Because changed ideas come from shared life conversations, not debates on FB.
That doesn’t mean that we can disagree, or you can’t probe for an explanation of what or why I believe or was trying to say. That happens often.
My “rules” also mean that if I post something on your wall, you have full control of how it goes. You don’t like it, that’s fine. If you want to chat, we might. I don’t debate anymore. But if you delete it outright, I’m fine with that. If I want to understand why, I’ll shoot you a message seeking understanding. But it’s your wall. You decide.
This has been a fairly normal kind of etiquette on FB since before non .edu peeps were permitted. Sorta.
So, let’s summarize. If you don’t like what I post, you have several options. Unfriend me, hide me, or simply ignore me, comment politely in a way that is appropriate for a quasi-public forum, or send me some sort of private message to discuss it more, especially if you’re offended by what I posted.
“So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13:13 ESV)
That is as much a reminder for you as it is for me. I must seek to be loving, in my interactions, in real life and online. But it’s also a reminder to you, this is what I want you to expect from me. And if you don’t get it, feel to talk to me about it…in a more private manner than commenting on a post.